The definitive guide
to creating the sex life
of your                               
— just by talking about it! — 
from sexpert couple
Vanessa and Xander Marin.

wildest dreams

Release date: FEBRUARY 7, 2023


The definitive guide to creating the sex life of your                               
— just by talking about it! —  from sexpert couple Vanessa and Xander Marin.

wildest dreams

You know communication is important in a relationship, but you just don’t know how to get started with such a sensitive subject. Maybe you’ve never talked about sex at all, and the thought of it makes your palms sweat. Or you’re feeling so disconnected from your partner that sex is the last thing on your mind. Maybe you’re too scared to be honest about what you really want. Or you have no freaking clue what you want, so you’re not sure how to tell your partner anything helpful!

Sex Talks is here to change that. Together, sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband, Xander, show you that the best thing you can do for your sex life doesn’t even involve taking off your clothes. Sex Talks guides you through the five essential conversations every couple needs to have to create an extraordinary sex life. You’ll discover how to:

  • Get comfortable and even have fun talking about sex
  • Stay emotionally connected
  • Turn each other on
  • Make each other feel good
  • Keep the spark alive for life

You’ll come away with a richer understanding of your needs and desires, and practical ways to create deeper intimacy with your partner.

With storytelling that ranges from tear jerking to laugh out loud funny, Vanessa and Xander take an intimate peek at what really goes on behind other couples’ closed bedroom doors. Sex Talks gives you the sex education you wish you’d had, the reassurance that you’re normal and not alone, and the tried-and-tested tools you need to create the sex life you deserve.
Why is it so hard to talk about sex, even with the person who regularly sees you naked?

step 1:

Preorder Your Copy!

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step 2:

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Get Over $200
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(seriously, it’s as good as the book itself!)

$30 coupon toward our upcoming Intimate or Nasty Valentine’s Day Event (opening February 1st!)

Dirty Talk 101 ($69 value — and one of our top guides!)

The Sexual Bucket List ($29 value)

How To Know What You Want In The Bedroom Masterclass ($19 value)

How To Start Talking About Sex With Your Partner Mini-Guide

A FREE ticket to our Sex Talks virtual live event

Game-changing digital workbook upon release

have these essential conversations!

"Sex Talks is a terrific book. Finally here's a book that recognizes that most sex issues are a result of the lack of communication. The book beautifully guides the essential conversation we all need to have about sex. Furthermore, it helps us overcome the myths that drag down on us."

john gottman

Author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

make those conversations easier, and perhaps even fun

“If there is one thing I know from my years as a sex therapist it's that talking about sex may be one of the most difficult hurdles couples face when they want to improve their sex lives. Sex Talks shows you how to make those conversations easier, and perhaps even fun.”

Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus

Author of Sex Points

this book redefines what it means to have great sex 

“This book redefines what it means to have great sex. With her signature frankness and relatability, Vanessa Marin reveals the secrets to a fulfilling love life. You’ll never think about intimacy and desire the same way again.”

LOGAN URY

 Author of How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love

your frequently  asked questions

your frequently asked questions

We know, preorders are weird! To be totally honest, neither of us had ever preordered a book before, so we didn’t understand the point. We just waited and bought books once they had been released.

But we’ve since learned that preorders are crucial for a book’s success. A book can not be successful without preorders!

The average book sells only 500 copies, so publishers won’t invest much into a book unless they see a lot of preorders. 

If you preorder, we’ll be able to get it into more bookstores and retailers. Due to your support so far, our publisher has already ordered more copies of the book to be printed!

Your preorders also help us land big press appearances so we can promote the book and get it in front of more couples. And they’re the only way to make the bestseller lists. 

We know this book is going to change lives, and we want to do everything we can to get it in front of as many people as possible. 

You preordering the book is the absolute best way to support us. 

But we want to make supporting us feel like a total no-brainer for you. As a thank you for your preorder of the hardcover, we’re giving you a ton of freebies, bonuses, and surprises - valued at over $200! Even though the book only costs around $22-$27.

We’re actually losing money by doing this, but that’s how much we want to support the book.

Thank you in advance for helping make Sex Talks a success with your hardcover preorder!
This is another strange thing about books that we’ve only recently discovered. Only the hardcover “counts” as a presale in the publishing world. 

We understand and respect that everyone has different preferences and accessibility needs for their books. Unfortunately, we don’t have any ability to change the publishing world. That’s why we’re focusing on hardcover presales, and making our bonus gift package an incredible value - even if you never open up the hardcover!

If you’re not a hardcover person yourself, you could always buy it as a gift for a friend or loved one. With bonuses worth over $200, you’re still coming out on top even if you buy two copies.

If you’re not a hardcover person yourself, you could always buy it as a gift for a friend or loved one!
Yes, thanks to your support with preorders, our publisher ordered other versions of the book!

Unfortunately, as we mentioned above, the book world only counts hardcover preorders. So you can only get our bonus bundle if you preorder the hardcover. 

Again, if you’re not a hardcover person yourself, you could always buy it as a gift for a friend or loved one. With bonuses worth over $200, you’re still coming out on top even if you buy two copies.

Even if you only preorder the Kindle or audiobook version, we’re thankful for your support.
After preordering your book, make sure to come back to this page and enter your purchase information in step 2. Once we’ve received and checked your submission, you’ll receive all your bonus gifts via email.

If you don’t see it in your inbox, email us at members@vmtherapy.com.
Of course! Thanks for your support! 

You should have already received an email with all of the added bonuses, but email us at members@vmtherapy.com if you don’t see it.

It’s likely that you didn’t get the bonus email because you unsubscribed from our email list. Please make sure to stay subscribed because we’re adding new surprises all the time, and we don’t want you to miss out!
Yes! 

The Book Depository link above is the best place to order internationally. 

If you don’t see the book available in your country yet, check back soon!
We don’t actually sell the book ourselves. We’ve provided links to all the major sellers here on this page, but you don’t need to use them. You can go directly to your favorite book website and buy it there. 

Just make sure to come back to this page and fill out step 2. Otherwise you won’t get your bonuses!
Anywhere but Amazon! 

Here’s another funny book world secret - the bestseller lists like to see that you have preorders from a wide variety of sellers, especially the smaller indie bookstores. 

Currently, almost all of our preorders are from Amazon. If you don’t mind where you buy the book from, buying it from a different seller would be greatly appreciated.

Vanessa’s a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field. Xander’s a regular dude who’s been married to a sex therapist for over a decade. (Which makes him very popular at parties!)

Our mission is to take the intimidation out of getting intimate.

We’re here to make you laugh and give you the courage to talk openly about intimacy, so you can have more fun in and out of the bedroom.

meet the authors

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Please send media/press inquires to press@vmtherapy.com.